my mum has been diagnosed with stage 4b base of tongue cancer.
she has completed a range of treaments and is now trying to recover. the consultant and specialist nurse have said that the objective of the treatment is to cure her. what i don't understand is how can stage 4 cancer be cured when in it's definition that means the cancer is terminal?
i just want a realistic prognosis as i tend to want to know as much as possible to be able to prepare as best as i can, my mum doesn't want to know the detail, she just keeps asking for confirmationa nd reassurance that the cancer will be cured. we are positive and only have discussions that focus on what we will do when she's feelling better
my dad died at the end of last year (lung cancer) less than 6 months later my mum was diagnosed with cancer (my mum and I both cared for him at home), my sister in law died young of brain cancer just months before my dad died. No one knows what's round the corner and i totally understand the importance of being strong and positive.. but sometimes i feel like I am going bonkers thinking about the posibilities in relation to my mum.
I have tried to talk to the consultant and specialist nurse but both sort of make me feel like i am being negative but just mentioning prognosis.
it all sometimes feels like a bit of a nightmare that i actually can't believe is happening, i miss my dad like mad and often feel very upset about his struggle in the last few weeks... i can see elements of my mum's health that remind me of what happened with my dad
sorry to be negative folks x