Writing this is hard as I can hear my 3 children playing so nicely. Just over two weeks ago I went to A&E with what I thought was a hernia or appendicitis. Little did I know that 12 hours later I’m being told I’ll be having emergency surgery to remove a “mass” in my large bowel. What a difference a day makes. Now I have a stoma and bag fitted which I have become used to (if that was my only issue) as well as a 20cm abdominal wound that is healing (far to slowly for my liking). After seeing my oncologist on Friday I’ve been advised that the chemotherapy will be palliative care to lengthen my life (by how much they will not know until the first round of chemotherapy).
Now the support/advice I’m looking for is how me and my wife can break this news to my children who are aged 6,4 and 16 months. Then how to make however long I’ve left to make it memorable for them and me.