You are totally normal, of course you feel anxious...and what a family history! When did you have the biopsy? As you know it's the waiting for results bit that tears you up....your mind will lurk in those dark places, it's difficult to pull yourself out of them. But what I can tell you is that your emotion are 100% normal....up and down...

 This forum has been a god send, I dip in and out ( mainly for reassurance) I was diagnosed with breast cancer just before Christmas....what a shock! Dr google just made me cross eyed, so I stay well clear now, then this forum somehow came to my attention and it's a great leveller for me....

let us know how you get on? Xxxxx

Hi marlyn

thank you for responding.   I am sorry to hear your diagnosis, my thought are with you.  

had my most recent biopsy yesterday, I get the results in 11 days time.  

Glad to know my feelings are normal, I had started to wonder if I was overreacting.   I know breast cancer has a high success rate, but it’s still scary.   My family history is not great regarding cancer, it’s my daughter I worry about, as she has cancer on my side and her fathers side of the family.  

My boss is going through exactly the same as I am, she is 4 days ahead of me, we try and talk but both put on a brave face for the other one.  

Polly xxx

Your not overreacting, cancer is as scary as it comes.....hold tight, not too long to wait, lets us know the results? Xxxx

Hi Polly,

Wow, what a family history! I too have lost both parents, several relatives and close friends to cancer and I have had 2 boouts of breast cancer in the past 9 years.

Waiting for results is one of the most anxious times of our entire cancer journeys. There are so many unknowns. You will find that your emotions are all over the place. Crying is also perfectly normal. Don't worry too much about this, as shedding those tears is a good stress reliever. I too have a daughter and can appreciate your concern for her. If you do have cancer, you can do a test to see if she is likely to get cancer.

I am sorry to her about your boss too. You will both be able to support one another.

I hope that your results don't show up anything untoward.

Please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you for your support, yes it’s a very scary time xxx

Hi Jolamine

sorry to hear about your last 2 bouts of cancer.  Hopefully you will get the good results this time.  

Thank you for your support, as I am finding the unknown very scary.   At the moment I am struggling, but I know I will have to be strong.regardless of the results, trying to stay positive 

Polly xxx

Hi Polly,

The unknown is always scary, but I'm glad that you are managing to keep positive too. You know what this wretched disease entails and, the only way to beat it is to stay positive. Someone has to turn this family record around and I sincerely hope that you are the one to do it.

I am hoping and praying that your results are benign.

Don't forget to let us know the results.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine

I agree anything unknown is scary.  I was thinking last night about this nasty disease, as is normal these days, I thought to myself  ‘breast cancer is really treatable and survival rate is high, so I’ve decided to try and look at this like a bad bout of flu, Millions of people get it, and most survive with treatment.

im hoping obviously that I get a good result and I’m going to be the one in my family to stop our family suffering from this disease.   

Saying all of this makes me feel positive, but the next second I’m a crying wreck, which I find annoying, as I’m the sort of person who stays strong, ie:  when my mum passed away, I work full makeup to her cremation, so I couldn’t cry and be strong for everyone else.  

Fingers crossed for you results Jolamine, you’ve already been through enough.  

Thinking of you 

Polly xx

Hi Polly,

We tend to compare what is happening to us to what happened to our relatives in the past. One thing that I can assure you of is that treatment has come a long way since they left us.

My mum died 21 years ago and I have been battling this for 9 years. I can honestly say that the surgery , treatment and after care that I have received bears absolutely no resemblance to that which mum received.  Our friends at Cancer Research and elsewhere are constantly striving to improve our lot and, they are doing a sterling job.

I hope that you can keep hold of your positivity, although, like most of us, you will still have the occasional wobble. Don't worry about this. It's like riding a horse. If you fall off, you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get straight back in the saddle again.

I forgot to mention that it is always a good idea to take someone with you to all of your appointments, particularly those where you expect to get results. It is also worth making a list of any questions you have for your consultany before each appointment.

I sincerely hope that you are the first member of the family to buck the trend.

Thinking of you.

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine

I agree treatment has come a long way.  

My husband is coming with me, but I think I’d rather be alone, but I know I’d be silly doing that and my husband wouldn’t let me.   I went with my mum and stepfather to gets mums results, realised that she couldn’t here what anyone was saying, due to the shock.   

You mentioned asking questions,  I haven’t even thought of that.  From what I’ve read, I know I’ll have to have more tests depending on my results, Ive tried to read as much as I can, like most people will have done.   

Kind thoughts

Polly xx