I find it reassuring that your wife was also in denial. So it's normal and he's not just insensitive! My husband seems to brush it under the carpet every time I mention it. all I get is ...well you don't really know yet do you ... I have a tumour and I've been told I am having a lumpectomy of my breast. they don't know for sure what kind of cancer but 99% of the time a necrotising tumour is malignant so I'm just being realistic. I've had cancer before I met him so I kinda know the drill.
Any positive news from here on in is welcomed, but I'm preparing my self for a rollercoaster, it's like we are at the theme park in the queue for the scariest ride and he still doesn't believe we are about to get on it.
I do however beilieve I'm going to get off it, I might look a bit disheveled at the end but I will dust myself off as usual.
I also get the well she looks fine to me comments.. I've had fluid on the brain for five years causing visual and hearing disturbances, severe pain and neurological difficulties, I have had around 60 lumbar punctures which have left my spinal chord scarred and cause me mobility issues and severe pain in my hips legs and feet. But because I do my hair and make up and present with a bubbly personality I'm fine. .. No I'm not it's the butrans patch and the oramorph that get me to that point of looking ok... Now I'm facing breast cancer too and I get a high five from my hubby because I Might not need a full mastectomy!
Thing is he is a great husband, I just think he is trying to keep me upbeat, but I need something different from him at the moment. I don't know what it is though, which makes it ten times worse.