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12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

21 Jun 2017 13:09 in response to Toblerone
That is so awful it is funny!

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

16 Jul 2017 00:35 in response to Moderator Sarah

I find it strange people.won't say the word cancer to me.

I get sorry about your problem 

How's the err you know

I say CANCER I have cancer I am not going to drop dead on the spot cos you said the word and I am not going to break down in tears and you are not go I g to catch it from me or get it just cos you said the word cancer 

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

17 Jul 2017 12:58 in response to Moderator Sarah

This made me laugh today, my daughterinlaw is the queen of platitudes, which when they were said left me feeling ,unheard,dismissed,over sensitive ,drama queen

1 it's the best cancer to have, in the best place

2 my friend had chemo and carried on working and everything

3 think about your holidays it's only six weeks off 

4 if you have to wait for results they can't be that bad

5 my friend, father, next door niebhour had it and they are great

6 your lucky your surgery is planned better than not knowing

7 after your surgery you will have more time to sit in the sun

8 it's going to be tough for a while the you will be ok ( never had cancer! )

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

17 Jul 2017 13:05 in response to RowanS
How absolutely awful, insensitive and cruel. Did anyone stand up for you? You should not be the one feeling dismissed, oversensitive, a drama queen! Seaspirit xx

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

17 Jul 2017 15:02 in response to RowanS

Lol - sadly I've read some of those posted on here, especially "that's the best sort of cancer to have"! 

My all time favourite is "what sort of cancer is it? ... oh my friend's Dad had that one too ... he died"! 

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

18 Jul 2017 16:53 in response to RowanS
Yep had the same comment t-shirts made to me especially "that's the best cancer to have" I know this sounds selfish but it mAde me feel like a fraud then they say it is just like having appendicitis once you have your kidney out that's it.

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

18 Jul 2017 17:41 in response to Toblerone

While discussing my cervical cancer and proposed pelvic radiotherapy, I was told..

Oh my Uncle had exactly the same thing...?!!

You don't want to take HRT, it gives you cancer...

It's not often I'm left speechless!

 

Keep smiling everyone 

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

18 Jul 2017 18:06 in response to Toblerone

Happy

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

18 Jul 2017 18:09 in response to Toblerone
Tried to put smiley faces on, would not have it

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

18 Jul 2017 20:16 in response to seaspirit44

Hi seaspirit44, 

Sorry to hear you're having trouble adding smiley faces to your post.

I thought I would add some to my post on your behalf Happy  Happy

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

18 Jul 2017 22:21 in response to Moderator Steph
Thank you Steph, you cheered me up, having a rough day x

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

20 Jul 2017 00:35 in response to Moderator Steph

 

When I was diagnosed with breast cancer (2015), my sister-in-law sent me am email saying that she thought it would be best if we ceased contact as she did not need any reminder of her own cancer diagnosis (2012).

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

20 Jul 2017 06:41 in response to dunanat1

Hi dunant

This must have been completely shocking to receive and not sure how I would have responded politely!

In my hubby's case action spoke louder than words in that his brother and sister in law just gave us a very wide berth  and only saw him twice in the year before his death, living only an hour away at the time.

I am sure you had plenty of support from the people who mattered but that message would have left a very nasty taste in my mouth!

Wishing you a pleasant day.  Jules

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

20 Jul 2017 07:14 in response to jules54

Hi jules 54

experienced the same the sort of thing when my mum passed .one of my sisters and family  made the experience all the most harder and unfortunatunstey 7 years down the the line I to now have cancer the same thing again .... 

ps living 10 mins away 

funny people 

hugs 

francesca

12 things never to say to someone who has cancer

20 Jul 2017 15:31 in response to Francecsca

Hi Francesca

As they say it takes all sorts and I came to the conclusion that our memories would be positive ones and they must deal with their own thoughts. I stay in touch (birthdays and Christmas) because two wrongs do not make a right!!

Your hugs are returned and I wish you all the best with your own journey with cancer, Jules