I find it strange people.won't say the word cancer to me.
I get sorry about your problem
How's the err you know
I say CANCER I have cancer I am not going to drop dead on the spot cos you said the word and I am not going to break down in tears and you are not go I g to catch it from me or get it just cos you said the word cancer
This made me laugh today, my daughterinlaw is the queen of platitudes, which when they were said left me feeling ,unheard,dismissed,over sensitive ,drama queen
1 it's the best cancer to have, in the best place
2 my friend had chemo and carried on working and everything
3 think about your holidays it's only six weeks off
4 if you have to wait for results they can't be that bad
5 my friend, father, next door niebhour had it and they are great
6 your lucky your surgery is planned better than not knowing
7 after your surgery you will have more time to sit in the sun
8 it's going to be tough for a while the you will be ok ( never had cancer! )
Lol - sadly I've read some of those posted on here, especially "that's the best sort of cancer to have"!
My all time favourite is "what sort of cancer is it? ... oh my friend's Dad had that one too ... he died"!
While discussing my cervical cancer and proposed pelvic radiotherapy, I was told..
Oh my Uncle had exactly the same thing...?!!
You don't want to take HRT, it gives you cancer...
It's not often I'm left speechless!
Keep smiling everyone
Sorry to hear you're having trouble adding smiley faces to your post.
I thought I would add some to my post on your behalf
Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator
When I was diagnosed with breast cancer (2015), my sister-in-law sent me am email saying that she thought it would be best if we ceased contact as she did not need any reminder of her own cancer diagnosis (2012).
This must have been completely shocking to receive and not sure how I would have responded politely!
In my hubby's case action spoke louder than words in that his brother and sister in law just gave us a very wide berth and only saw him twice in the year before his death, living only an hour away at the time.
I am sure you had plenty of support from the people who mattered but that message would have left a very nasty taste in my mouth!
Wishing you a pleasant day. Jules
Hi jules 54
experienced the same the sort of thing when my mum passed .one of my sisters and family made the experience all the most harder and unfortunatunstey 7 years down the the line I to now have cancer the same thing again ....
ps living 10 mins away
As they say it takes all sorts and I came to the conclusion that our memories would be positive ones and they must deal with their own thoughts. I stay in touch (birthdays and Christmas) because two wrongs do not make a right!!
Your hugs are returned and I wish you all the best with your own journey with cancer, Jules