Practical issues (funerals, wills, finances)
This page has information on dealing with practical issues when you know that you are dying. There is information about
Most people want to make a will, to make sure that the money and possessions they leave behind go to the people they want it to. This is a legal document which needs to be prepared and written in the right way. Often it is best to pay a solicitor to help you. This is usually inexpensive.
If you have already made a will, but need to update it, it is important that you do so sooner rather than later. Once you have made your will, tell your next of kin where you have put it.
The guidance on drawing up a will describes the process and how to list your assets to discuss with the solicitor. It also lists the documents and information (bank details, insurance policies etc) that your next of kin may need to register your death.
Financial problems can be very stressful, especially if you have been ill for a long time and have had to give up work because of your cancer. You may be spending more on special diets, heating or laundry. You may worry about how you will pay bills, your mortgage or rent, and other living expenses.
Help and support is available to you for many financial issues that you may have. You may quality for Government benefits and charity grants if you have cancer, or are caring for someone with cancer. The social worker at the hospital or hospice can also give you advice on where to get financial help.
Many people who know that they are going to die make a living will. There are two types of living will. These are known formally as an advance decision and an advance statement. This is in case the time comes when they are no longer able to make decisions or communicate their needs.
You can only make a living will when you are mentally able to do so, so it has to be done in advance of needing it. This document is helpful for your next of kin, and the health professionals involved in your care. It is only used once you have lost the ability to make decisions for yourself, for example if you are unconscious.
You may also want to think about who will manage your financial affairs if you are not able to do this anymore. This is called Lasting Power of Attorney. You can also choose a person to make decisions on your behalf about health and welfare. This is called a Health and Welfare Lasting Power of Attorney.
Discussing your funeral may not be an easy subject. Understandably, some people find it morbid and unsettling to discuss their funeral before they die. But others find it comforting to plan and organise their own funeral in a lot of detail.
There may be certain music, songs, poems or prayers that you would like to have. You may want to have the funeral at a specific church and be buried in a certain cemetery. You can also say whether you want a burial or cremation.
There is no wrong or right way to do any of these things. It is a very personal issue and up to you and your close relatives and friends. The important thing is to let someone know your wishes.
If you would like to plan your funeral before you die, most funeral directors will be very understanding and can help you. They will do all they can to make this time as easy as possible for you.
Choosing a funeral director can be difficult. Friends or relatives who have had to arrange a funeral may be able to suggest someone. Or you can contact the National Association of Funeral Directors. They can provide you with the details of local funeral directors who are part of this professional association.
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