Coping with bile duct cancer

Coping with bile duct cancer can be difficult. You may find that you have a number of different feelings. It can be particularly difficult to cope with a diagnosis of advanced bile duct cancer. 

There are things you can do, people who can help and ways to cope with a diagnosis of bile duct cancer. 

Your feelings

You might have a number of different feelings when you're told you have cancer.

You may feel a range of powerful emotions at first such as feeling shocked, upset and find it difficult to take in anything else that is being said to you. Other emotions include feeling:

• numb
• frightened and uncertain
• confused
• angry and resentful
• guilty
• sad

You may have some or all of these feelings. Or you might feel totally different. You may feel them a few at a time or altogether, leaving you feeling exhausted.

Everyone reacts in their own way. Sometimes it's hard to take in the fact that you have cancer at all. You need to do what’s right for you to help you cope.

Helping yourself

You may be more able to cope and make decisions if you have information about your type of cancer and its treatment. Information helps you to know what to expect.

Taking in information can be difficult, especially when you have just been diagnosed or given sad news about your outlook. Make a list of questions before you see your doctor. Take someone with you to remind you what you want to ask. They can also help you to remember the information that was given. Getting a lot of new information can feel overwhelming.

Ask your doctors and nurse specialists to explain things again if you need them to.

You might feel that you don’t want to know much information straight away. Tell your doctor or nurse. You will always be able to ask for more information when you feel ready.

Remember that you don’t have to sort everything out at once. It might take some time to deal with each issue. Ask for help if you need it.

You can also do practical things such as:

• making lists to help you
• having a calendar with all appointments
• having goals
• planning enjoyable things around weeks that might be emotionally difficult for you

Talking to other people

Talking to your friends and relatives about your cancer can help and support you. But some people are scared of the emotions this could bring up and won’t want to talk. They might worry that you won't be able to cope with your situation or be afraid they will say the wrong thing.

It can strain relationships if your family or friends don't want to talk. But talking can help increase trust and support between you and them.

Help your family and friends by letting them know if you would like to talk about what’s happening and how you feel.

You might find it easier to talk to someone other than your own friends and family. We have cancer information nurses you can call on freephone 0808 800 4040, from 9am to 5pm, Monday to Friday.

Or you may prefer to see a counsellor.

Cancer chat

You can chat with other people affected by cancer in our online forum. 

Specialist nurses

Specialist nurses can help you if you’re finding it difficult to cope or if you have any problems. They can get you the help you need. They can also give you information.

Physical problems

Bile duct cancer and its treatment may cause physical changes in your body. Some changes may be as a result of treatment such as chemotherapy, surgery or radiotherapy. Your doctor or specialist nurse will help you manage any changes. They can refer you to other health professionals if needed, such as dietitians and the symptom control team.

Tiredness

You may feel very tired and lacking in energy a lot of the time. Tiredness may be worse during and after treatment, or if your cancer is advanced.

Loss of appetite and weight loss

Many people who have bile duct cancer lose their appetite and some may lose weight. Speak to your clinical nurse specialist or dietician about any eating problems. 

Dry skin and itching

Many people with bile duct cancer develop jaundice . This can cause itching and dry skin. Your doctor or specialist nurse may suggest some creams and medicines to help with this. 

Relationships and sex

The physical and emotional changes you have might affect your relationships and sex life. There are things that you can do to manage this.

Coping practically

You and your family might need to cope with practical things including:

• money matters
• financial support, such as benefits, sick pay and grants
• work issues
• childcare
• Blue Badge applications
• help with travel costs
• changes to your house

Talk to your doctor or specialist nurse to find out who can help.  You might be able to get some benefits for yourself and the person caring for you. You might also be able to get grants for heating costs, holidays and other household expenses related to your illness.

Getting help early with these things can mean that they don’t become a big issue later. It may be helpful to see a social worker. Many hospital cancer departments have a social worker available for patients.

Spiritual support

Some people find great comfort in religion. You might find it helpful to talk to:

• a local minister
• a hospital chaplain
• a religious leader of your faith

Support groups

You may find it helpful to go to a charity or support group to talk to other people affected by cancer.

Towards the end of life

It’s natural to want to find out what is likely to happen in the last few weeks or days of life.

You might need to choose where you want to be looked after and who you want to care for you.